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I couldn't agree more with everything you wrote! I take the same approach to food, and absolutely refuse to use low fat/sugar/calorie substitutes for cooking. Life is too short to eat bad food! Not to mention that "bad" food always changes - sometimes it's carbs, others it's fats. I'm just going to eat what tastes good and makes me happy, thank you!

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Exactly and there is normally always something they’re not telling you in these “dream” products that they say taste the same but have no fat…

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My friends and I remind each other all the time that people mostly remember how you treat them, not how you look. People always assume I am mean before they speak to me and they are shocked to find that I am kind and sweet, and actually shy. There is a different side to this where people who are considered "beautiful" are not expected to be kind and loving people. Everyone is so hung up on looks they literaly dont care about getting to know people properly. This is terrebly sad, I think.

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The way we treat others is THE most important!!

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Loved this article. I did have a suggestion about those shoes, though. Did you know that, since blisters are caused by friction, you can usually solve the problem by putting a small strip of adhesive tape on the skin that blisters before you put the shoes on? Now you can procrastinate about those insoles without paying such a price.

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ooooh, i’ll have to look into this!

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Hope it helps. I'm sure you'll have other sacrifices to make, and I think you mentioned waxing. Eeek.

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Great questions! And great choice of shoes. I had a very similar thought when the boyfriend gifted me a pair of high heels (with the best of intentions) but boy those were some ruined date nights, I can't remember anything nice but the pain. When I stopped wearing them we had an argument. On shoes! What the hell... I'd rather be stompy and comfortable and able to think rationally wearing docs.

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Comfort is always the winner for me too!

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"Breaking news: twenty-six-year-old has lines on her forehead. Please don’t tell the anti-ageing police, otherwise they might descend and call me old. Of course, by which they mean ugly."

Yes! That's the conflation, truly. Right there. The worst thing a woman can be is not "fun" to look at. Gasp!

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How horribly offensive!!!

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I also ended up musing on this recently. The whole thing is fascinating. Beauty is not pain (I will however still do the mildly painful three minutes it takes to get the arch put back in my eyebrows every 8 weeks with a bit of thread though!)

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Honestly me any time i wax!! There’s always so much to unpack on this topic

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